Updated: Mar 7, 2021
I know it is not easy.
Easy for anyone to understand, unless they have been shell shocked.
Easy for anyone who does not live in a loop of all the most awful things they have seen, done and have had done to them. No one wants to walk a mile in these shoes.
Whatever happened does not mean that you do not deserve to move on, to live while you are still here and to rejoice in what is on offer to you.
The most standard definition of PTSD
Post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) is a mental health condition that's triggered by a terrifying event — either experiencing it or witnessing it. Symptoms may include flashbacks, nightmares and severe anxiety, as well as uncontrollable thoughts about the event.
Most people who go through traumatic events may have temporary difficulty adjusting and coping, but with time and good self-care, they usually get better. If the symptoms get worse, last for months or even years, and interfere with your day-to-day functioning, you may have PTSD
What THOR offers as Self Care measure
Welcome your pain
Affirm your pain
Express your pain
Release your pain
Create your routine
Open up to yourself
Open up to your loved ones and invite them to hopping in and out of your routine
Open up to your community and be of service to the living
Open up to society and be a protector to those who cannot protect themselves - even the birds and the bees.
Nurture every step every day within your morning ritual.
Find the playfulness in everything undertaken without shame.
My darlings, take it from someone who knows it well.
With grandparents that served in the first and second world wars. With parents that fought for civil rights, with my own terrifying experiences of being reduced to a thing and making the journey thriving.
These ten steps, I list have been useful on my way, thanks to the routine I was given, and which has taken a long time to adapt to, adopt and appropriate. These ten steps have become even more valuable since my training in clinical sexology was completed.
PTSD thrivers have digested and surrendered quite a few things: notably
1. We push everyone away because we do not feel like we deserve kindness
2. We push everyone away because we do not wish to hurt anyone anymore than we already have
3. We contemplate suicide but would rather be killed than kill ourselves
4. We feel ashamed to admit that we were promised something and were given quite another truth in return. So for example, we sign up to the army to protect life and instead we end up protecting financial investments...the deepest boycott we are not allowed to mention, just in case this is seen as being a 'cry baby' or committing treason.
All is hard to verbalise...
But I am here to hear you out and coach your through this, rekindle with love and thrive.
Re-discover, Recover, Align and Thrive.